THE SECRET SAUCE IS YOU🫦
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You've read the books. You've done the journalling. You've said "new year, new me" more times than you can count.
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But here's what nobody told you: self-love isn't something you find. It's something you practice. Daily. Messily. Devotedly. And it starts with your relationship with yourself — not your situationship, your job title, or your body in the mirror.
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The secret sauce is you. It always was.
Through coaching, embodiment, and radical self-devotion practices, I help women reconnect with their confidence, pleasure, and personal power.
THE SELF-LOVE SYSTEM
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My work is built on six pillars — the six places where women most abandon themselves. We go into all of them. Not around them.​
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MIND​
"Your thoughts are not facts. But you've been living like they are." Everything starts here. The story you tell yourself about who you are, what you deserve, and what's possible for you — that story is running your entire life. Your relationships, your bank account, your body, your joy. All of it filtered through the narrative in your head. In the Mind pillar, we audit the beliefs you didn't choose but live by. We meet the parts of you that have been keeping you safe and small. And we begin the rewrite — not by forcing positivity, but by getting honest about the story first. The question we ask here: whose voice is that in your head — and is it actually yours?
BODY
"Your body is not a project. It's a home — and you've been living outside of it." Most women are at war with their bodies before they're even old enough to name it. We shrink them, punish them, perform with them, and push through their pain. We've been taught to manage our bodies from the outside rather than inhabit them from within. In the Body pillar, we return. Not to fix or improve — to feel. To learn what it actually means to live inside your skin with kindness. To move because it feels good, not because you owe your body punishment or improvement. When you come home to your body, everything changes — your energy, your presence, your pleasure, your power. The question we ask here: what would shift if you stopped fighting your body and started listening to it?
SEX
"You cannot be fully lit up in your life if you are dim in your desire." Desire is life force. And we have been taught — by religion, by culture, by the relationships that shaped us — to manage it, suppress it, perform it, or be ashamed of it. When we disconnect from our erotic selves, we don't just go quiet in the bedroom. We go quiet everywhere. In the Sex pillar, we reclaim desire as a dimension of your wholeness — not a separate, dangerous thing to control. We explore what pleasure actually means to you outside of performance and partnership. We name the shame, we understand where it came from, and we begin — gently, honestly — to set it down. The question we ask here: where are you faking satisfaction — and what would it feel like to stop?
SPIRIT
"You don't need to borrow someone else's God. You need a conversation with your own." Spirituality has been flattened into aesthetics — crystals and vision boards and morning routines posted for approval. But real spiritual practice is something quieter and more demanding than that. It is a consistent, private relationship with something larger than your ego. And it looks completely different for every woman. In the Spirit pillar, we build yours — from scratch, without dogma, without performance. We work with your intuition as a real intelligence. We build a devotion practice that grounds you, holds you, and reminds you of who you are when life tries to convince you otherwise. The question we ask here: what do you know — not think, know — that you keep overriding?
MONEY
"The way you handle money is the way you handle yourself. All of it is connected." Money is not a numbers conversation. It is a self-worth conversation. The way you earn, charge, spend, receive, and talk about money is a direct mirror of what you believe you deserve. Women chronically undercharge, overgive, and feel guilty for wanting more — because we have been conditioned to see financial power as selfish, masculine, or dangerous. In the Money pillar, we go into the story — where it came from, what it costs you, and what becomes available when you decide that having money is not at odds with being a good woman. We build your wealth identity from the inside out, because your net worth will never consistently exceed your sense of self-worth. The question we ask here: if you truly believed you were worth it, what would you charge — and what would you stop apologizing for?
SOUL
"This is who you are when no one is measuring you. This is the work that holds everything else." Soul is the deepest pillar — and the one that holds all the others. It is not about your job title, your output, or your purpose in the productivity sense. It is about the truth of who you are when all the roles have been removed. When you strip away what you do for others, what remains? That remainder is the soul. And it has been waiting, patiently, for you to come back to it. In the Soul pillar, we ask the questions most people avoid because they demand a real answer. We map your values, your non-negotiables, your legacy — not what you want to leave behind, but the quality of presence you want to bring to every single ordinary day of your life. This is where it all comes together. The question we ask here: what is the one unrepeatable thing only you can bring to the world by being fully, unapologetically yourself?
SWEET SOMETHINGS
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WHAT THE BADDIES ARE SAYIN' ...
Adrii, 31
I started my yoga and self-love journey with Phoenixx in 2019/2020 when she started coaching. It's 6 years later and we have become actual rl friends. I am forever grateful for your time, wisdom and (sometimes tough) LOVE Phee!
Gugu, 40
Before working with Phoenixx I was faking orgasms AND faking being okay. Now I'm not faking anything.
Rozanne, 24
Phoenixx changed my life!! I used to be so self conscious in bed and shy in class. Crazily she helped me with both - sexual trauma I was struggling with and also with my transition into becoming a yoga teacher myself.
HEY BADDIE 💋 I'M PHOENIXX
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Self-love coach. Movement mentor. Breathwork facilitator. Yoga and Pilates teacher. And the woman who had "self-love" tattooed on her neck long before it was a hashtag.
I didn't build this work from theory. I built it from living — from navigating my own healing, my sexuality, my relationships, my body, my money, my spirit. From unlearning every story I'd been sold about what it means to be a woman who's "good enough."
What I know for sure: when a woman learns to choose herself — really choose herself — everything changes. Her relationships. Her bank account. Her body. Her orgasms. Her joy.
That's the work. That's the sauce.
And I'm here to hold it with you.
You don't need another sign.
You need a decision.
The version of you that you keep dreaming about? She doesn't arrive when things are perfect. She arrives when you decide she's already here.
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Let's begin. 💋